Parenting is so hard.
I know I don’t have to tell you that. There are so many roles to play. I can be a nurse to my kids. I can be their cook, their chauffeur, their entertainer. I really don’t mind being their housekeeper. I love to be their teacher and friend. It’s the parenting part of parenting that I just am not good at.
I feel like I’ve tried every theory possible to “train up a child in the way he should go.” But I feel totally helpless sometimes. We have many good days, but I seem to constantly question my parenting strategies.
I read this a while back. And I’ve read it many times since. It was eye opening for me. And I’m using it now as a point of reference.
It’s all a matter of perspective.
I can choose to think that I have a difficult child who is driving me crazy in constant battles of will, or I can choose to see him as a child of integrity who isn’t easily swayed from his own viewpoints.
I can take each situation as a lesson to show him how to respect his elders (i.e. fight with his elders), or I can give him opportunities to make wise decisions and be responsible on his own.
I can break his will and teach him to be obedient, or I can foster a relationship built on mutual love and respect.
This article was completely revolutionary for me. I still have no idea how to put much of this into practice. I say that my boy is completely opposite of me and I don’t understand him. In truth, though our energy levels and social attitudes are very different, our interests and personalities (read: strong wills) are very similar.
God, help me to step back and look at the big picture of parenting. I so often feel like I just need to make it through the day. When maybe I should be focusing on a brighter side. Establishing a relationship with my boys, not just disciplining or rewarding each behavior. Push back my feelings of helplessness and give me hope for our future. I need clarity and specific ideas how to set my boys up for success. I need patience and peace to handle the crazy that is two energetic boys. Thank you for the personality that you gave my boys. May they grow and perfect their strengths; Isaac standing up for what he believes in, and Asher caring wholeheartedly for the people around him. May they use their strengths to do good in this world and make it better than they found it. Help me to be a good mother, a wise mother, and one that my boys want to stick with and run to in good times and bad.