I got dressed up for a wedding last weekend. I painted a bright pink on my nails, donned my pearls and heels, and even curled my hair. It was a lovely spring wedding and we were able to reunite with old friends and celebrate a really beautiful couple.
It was an outdoor wedding and despite what the weather app had said, it was chillier than expected. I sat down for the ceremony and snuggled in closely to Randall, crossing my legs and hands in attempt to keep as much warmth in my body as possible.
As the pastor prayed, I looked down at my hands turning purple under the clouds. My skin was rough and in desperate need of moisture. My pink nails were already chipped from whatever menial tasks I had done in the last 24 hours. I had burns healing on both wrists from baking bread over a week before. Honestly, I was embarrassed at the sight of them.
I rarely paint my nails for fear that I’ll draw attention to what I’ve always felt are my “man hands.” They’re big, rough, and scarred. When I was the maid of honor and in charge of my brother-in-law’s wedding ring 15 years ago, I had to wear it on the tip of my pinky so it wouldn’t get stuck on my fat fingers.
No. I do.
In honor of International Women’s Day today, someone posted the verses from Proverbs 31:10-31 describing a woman who wakes up early and stays up late working to provide for her family’s physical needs. She is talented, wise, caring, confident, and selfless. She makes her husband and children better people. These verses are written as a poem about a fictional wise woman. It is not a back breaking command for women to strive to emulate. In fact, the only thing this passage commands is that men praise women for all they are.
“Honor her for all that her hands have done…”
I sat in a room of women this morning, next to my own mother. The woman in front of me had a bandaid on her translucent, aged hands. I looked down at my mom’s hands who, at one point in my life, were more familiar to me than my own. How blessed are we to be able to use our hands to love others well?
My hands bear the proof of my love for my family and devotion to them. My hands are scarred from making their bread, dirty from playing with them, worn from cleaning up after them, strong from holding them up and so, so happy to bear these marks of love.